Single and loving it…Why being single is the way forward.

Single and loving it…Why being single is the way forward.

So you’re single, no boyfriend and no ring on your finger…well not yet anyway.  There is absolutely no rush to get yourself into a relationship. Seeing couples kissing snuggling and holding hands may make you feel a bit lonely and long for the same kind of affection, but behind closed doors, the same couple that was just looking like loves young dream could be going through their own miserable raging domestic disputes, now that is just one of the reasons why being single is so great, and here are a couple more:

Freedom and Independence.

Being single means you can do whatever you like, whenever you like. You are not answerable to anyone, you don’t need to explain why you didn’t come home last night, you don’t need to check with anyone before you can go on anywhere. Being single allows for spontaneity, you can decide to go on holiday on the spur of the moment and live life on a whim if you want.  If you want to sit and watch TV all day while munching a family pack size of Doritos to yourself there is no one to look at you in repulsion. Especially for the guys, it forces you to learn how to do things for yourself such as cooking laundry and cleaning up for yourself. Being skilled at different things makes you a more complete, independent, well-rounded person, which is a great quality to have, and one that will be noticed if you decide to seek a relationship later on.

More control over your time

We live in a busy society. You probably hear people complaining that they never have enough time, all while scribbling their plans for the next three months into their BlackBerry. These people probably aren’t single. When you’re single, you may have more time for yourself and things that you like to do. You can set your own schedule. Being single may give you more time for hobbies, relaxation, being with friends and family, and so on. Being single gives you more time to better yourself. You can use the extra time to work on your career, volunteer in your community, or take classes for job advancement or just for personal enrichment.  Relationships and marriages especially require a significant amount of time, as anyone who is married or in a relationship will tell you. So, doesn’t it stand to reason to take advantage of any extra time while you still have it?

Not having to tolerate another’s annoying habits

Let’s face it – all of us have quirks about ourselves that someone else finds annoying. Being single frees you from this issue. A single person doesn’t have to listen to someone snore all night while hogging the blankets. Guys, you wouldn’t have to worry about finding a fuzzy toilet seat cover or pink shower curtain in your bathroom. Ladies, you wouldn’t have to constantly nag someone to take care of the dishes piling up in the sink or putting the toilet seat down. Being single allows you to give your patience a rest and live in a non-frustrating environment. The only disgusting habits you’ll have to put up with are your own.

No emotional roller coaster rides

Being single allows you to stabilize your emotions. When a person is in a relationship, especially when it is just starting, your emotions can go completely out of sync. Your mind can go a mile a minute constantly thinking things like, “Does s/he still like me?”, “Did I say the right thing?”, “What should I do now?”, “When should I call next?” The list goes on and on. It’s enough to make a person go bonkers with all these thoughts running rampant. In addition, being single means that you won’t have to worry about going through a heart-wrenching breakup. Once you’ve become a successful single, you will appreciate being able to be emotionally relaxed.

Ability to become aware of who you are

Being single can give you a deeper awareness of who you really are – not someone as defined by a relationship. During the initial stages of a relationship, you try to make yourself look as good as possible to impress the other person, and often find yourself saying and doing things you normally wouldn’t do. Being single allows you to be yourself and develop who you really are.

These are just some of the advantages to being single. As you progress into becoming a successful single, you will find more and more advantages.  Once you move past the grass is greener on the other side way of thinking, you will then be ready to make the most of being single.

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