How to keep romance alive in a relationship
We all love the feeling of a new relationship, the romantic gestures, the butterflies you feel when you see your new partner, and the firework exploding passion in the bedroom, but with time as couples get more familiar with each other, this passion wanes and you may find yourself and your loved one settling into a comfortable rut. Now there is absolutely nothing wrong with being in routine, the fact that your relationship has survived past the honeymoon stage means that there is something more substantial to your relationship love than just flowers, dates and physical attraction. However, after some time couples tend to take each other’s feelings for granted and just assume they know what the other wants.
Remember how you felt when you first began a relationship with your partner, remember how excited you would get just knowing that they were coming to see you and how much time and effort you put into looking your best before they came, and how you would go the extra mile just because you knew it would put a smile on their face. Well these thoughtful gestures do not have to be a distant memory and here are some tips that can help you inject a dose of romance back into your relationship.
- You can start simply, if you know your significant other usually does the cooking or the chores, surprise them to their favourite cooked meal or the dishes washed and put away. It really is the little things that count and they will appreciate the fact that you were considerate enough to take one thing off their to do list so they could relax. You may find that it’s the simple things that are much appreciated.
- Go on a date night, this could be once a week or once a fortnight whatever your schedules allow. Many people under estimate how effective this is, but when you laugh over dinner, hold hands on the way to the cinema or giggle over cocktails at the bar, it reminds you of why you fell in love with your partner in the first place, rekindles your desire and affection for one another and creates even more precious memories. Creating memories is important, just as remembering a bad event takes you right back to that pain filled moment, casting your mind back on all the beautiful wonderful things you’ve experienced together puts a smile on your lips and fills you with warmth, ….make more good memories!!
- Have you noticed that your boyfriend could talk forever about football, or that your girlfriend would be a character in her favourite sitcom if she could? Try to take an interest in your partner’s hobbies and likes, it will bring you closer and even if you are not particularly interested yourself, your partner will definitely appreciate the obvious effort
- Plan an exciting activity holiday somewhere you have never been, enjoying this new experience will give you time to bond together and give you more beautiful memories to add to the already expanding collection. Have fun scuba diving, laugh at each other falling over whilst learning to ski; there are so many activities you can partake in together.
- Communication and affection are both very vital in keeping the romance alive in your relationship, in the early days of your relationship there was a lot of cuddling, snuggling and holding hands. Just because you have been with your partner for a while now does not mean the desire to hear the words I love you have disappeared or the desire to snuggle up on the sofa has expired. Even if your partner hasn’t necessarily mentioned this, you would be surprised to find out that they still yearn for this type of affection. Also communicate to your partner how much you love and appreciate them on a daily basis, don’t just assume that they know you love them, still tell them it is reassuring, comforting and it makes them feel loved.
A lot of people falsely believe that romance should come naturally and if it doesn’t or if the closeness begins to subside there is a problem. This is not true in the slightest, keeping romance alive in your relationship requires effort, attention and the willingness to learn new things about your partner and reconnect.
