How to keep romance alive in a relationship

We all love the feeling of a new relationship, the romantic gestures, the butterflies you feel when you see your new partner, and the firework exploding passion in the bedroom, but with time as couples get more familiar with each other, this passion wanes and you may find yourself and your loved one settling into a comfortable rut. Now there is absolutely nothing wrong with being in routine, the fact that your relationship has survived past the honeymoon stage means that there is something more substantial to your relationship love than just flowers, dates and physical attraction. However, after some time couples tend to take each other’s feelings for granted and just assume they know what the other wants.
Remember how you felt when you first began a relationship with your partner, remember how excited you would get just knowing that they were coming to see you and how much time and effort you put into looking your best before they came, and how you would go the extra mile just because you knew it would put a smile on their face. Well these thoughtful gestures do not have to be a distant memory and here are some tips that can help you inject a dose of romance back into your relationship.
- You can start simply, if you know your significant other usually does the cooking or the chores, surprise them to their favourite cooked meal or the dishes washed and put away. It really is the little things that count and they will appreciate the fact that you were considerate enough to take one thing off their to do list so they could relax. You may find that it’s the simple things that are much appreciated.
- Go on a date night, this could be once a week or once a fortnight whatever your schedules allow. Many people under estimate how effective this is, but when you laugh over dinner, hold hands on the way to the cinema or giggle over cocktails at the bar, it reminds you of why you fell in love with your partner in the first place, rekindles your desire and affection for one another and creates even more precious memories. Creating memories is important, just as remembering a bad event takes you right back to that pain filled moment, casting your mind back on all the beautiful wonderful things you’ve experienced together puts a smile on your lips and fills you with warmth, ….make more good memories!!
- Have you noticed that your boyfriend could talk forever about football, or that your girlfriend would be a character in her favourite sitcom if she could? Try to take an interest in your partner’s hobbies and likes, it will bring you closer and even if you are not particularly interested yourself, your partner will definitely appreciate the obvious effort
- Plan an exciting activity holiday somewhere you have never been, enjoying this new experience will give you time to bond together and give you more beautiful memories to add to the already expanding collection. Have fun scuba diving, laugh at each other falling over whilst learning to ski; there are so many activities you can partake in together.
- Communication and affection are both very vital in keeping the romance alive in your relationship, in the early days of your relationship there was a lot of cuddling, snuggling and holding hands. Just because you have been with your partner for a while now does not mean the desire to hear the words I love you have disappeared or the desire to snuggle up on the sofa has expired. Even if your partner hasn’t necessarily mentioned this, you would be surprised to find out that they still yearn for this type of affection. Also communicate to your partner how much you love and appreciate them on a daily basis, don’t just assume that they know you love them, still tell them it is reassuring, comforting and it makes them feel loved.
A lot of people falsely believe that romance should come naturally and if it doesn’t or if the closeness begins to subside there is a problem. This is not true in the slightest, keeping romance alive in your relationship requires effort, attention and the willingness to learn new things about your partner and reconnect.
Read MoreKirsten, 52 from Kinver, Staffordshire Looking For Dating Partner on Christmas
Kirsten’s Characteristics
Eye Colour: Blue
Hair Colour: Dark Brown
Hair Length: Shoulder
Height: 5’5″-5’8″
Build: Athletic
Ethnicity: Caucasian / White
Religion: None
Marital Status: Separated
Smoker: None
Drinker: Social
Children: 0
Vegetarian: No
Education: College
Occupation: Finance
Income: £20,001 – £30,000
About Kirsten
Ive been in a 33 year relationship and am now single. Things seem to have changed drastically since I dated years ago. I’m not interested in one night stands, I consider myself a genuine, honest person who wants to get to know someone, enjoy laughs and interesting conversation with and maybe more as time moves along. I love keeping fit by running, cycling and going to the gym. I have a good sense of humour and have a positive outlook on life. I would like to meet someone similar who doesn’t take life too seriously. I have 3 grown up children who I adore and who inspire me with their enthusiasm and outlook on life.
Kirsten’s Answers
What do you like to do for fun?
Gym, running, cycling, pub, cinema, meals out, theatre, music
What is your favourite meal?
Probably Italian food
What is the most interesting fact about you?
I have run 5 marathons
What is your most treasured possession?
My dog
What is your favourite place in the world to visit?
Anywhere, I love travelling
Who is your greatest inspiration?
Martin Luther King
If you won the lottery what would you buy first?
An apartment abroad
What is your favourite book or film and why?
About time because I would love to be born with that gift
What did you want to be when you were growing up?
A hairdresser
What do you like most about your job?
Talking to colleagues
What is the scariest thing you’ve ever done?
Skiing for the first time & skiing down a slope not knowing how to stop
Who or what do you secretly want to be?
A sportsperson
What would you do on a perfect Sunday?
Have a lie in, coffee in bed, then brunch out in a nice restaurant then go for a walk, catch a late afternoon movie followed by a nice evening meal
Kirsten’s Interests
Pop Music, Movies, Theatre, Animals, The Outdoors, Restaurants, Pubs/Clubs, Reading, TV/Radio, Travelling, Keep Fit, Sports (Playing) and Sports (Watching)
Read MoreKaren, 53 from Nottingham, Nottinghamshire Looking For Senior Dating
Karen’s Characteristics
Eye Colour: Blue
Hair Colour: Black
Hair Length: Long
Height: 5’1″-5’4″
Build: A Little Curvy
Ethnicity: Other
Religion: Other
Marital Status: Divorced
Smoker: None
Drinker: Social
Children: 3+
Vegetarian: No
Education: Secondary / High School
Occupation: Other
Income: £0 – £10,000
About Karen
I am very shy at first and get really tongue tied or ramble like a lunatic, but once I get to know you more I have a good sense of humour and love nothing more then watching, reading or hearing funny stories, I am a loyal friend and companion, I love animals, but mostly dogs, horses are my passion but have never had the opportunity to ride or own one, I am very honest and like the same in return, I dress for comfort not fashion, but am not a slob, I enjoy good food home cooked or at a restaurant, I love pubs and the fun atmosphere in them, I used to love dancing but am not fit enough any more.
Karen’s Answers
What do you like to do for fun?
Reading, writing, eating out, playing with my dogs, watching movies, music of all kinds, home improvement, crafting, would love to travel but don’t have the means
What is your favourite meal?
Hmmm anything with chicken in it lol
What is the most interesting fact about you?
I am a published poet lol sounds pretentious but it was only vanity press lol
Karen’s Interests
Pop Music, Classical Music, Country Music, Rock Music, Movies, Dancing, Animals, Gardening, The Arts, DIY/Crafts, Restaurants, Pubs/Clubs, Reading, TV/Radio, Internet and Cooking
Read MoreGemma, 42, Kidderminster, Worcestershire, West Midlands Seeks Romantic Relationship
Single in Kidderminster, Worcestershire or in any of the neighbouring counties of even in Birmingham? Then Gemma’s dating profile will interest you. And of course, you have to be over 40, given that UK Mature Dating Site is exclusively for single men and women over the age of forty.
Now that we have established that you have to be an older single male for Gemma to consider going out with you. Here is a bit more information about here. First read her dating profile characteristics to get a flavour of the kind of person she is. Then read more info about here at the bottom of this post.
Gemma’s Dating Profile Characteristics
Eye Colour: Blue
Hair Colour: Dark Brown
Hair Length: Short
Height: 5’6″
Build: Athletic
Ethnicity: Caucasian / White
Religion: None
Marital Status: Single
Smoker: No
Drinker: Light
Vegetarian: Yes
Education: Degree
Occupation: Middle Management
Income: Prefer not to say
Some answers Gemma provided to UK Mature Dating profile wizard:
What do you like to do for fun?
Sports including swim, run, cycle and going to the Cinema.
What is your favourite meal?
I’ve got a good appetite and open to new foods. I don’t have a favourite.
What is the most interesting fact about you?
If you get to know me, you can find out.
Other things Gemma is interested in include:
Pop Music, Jazz Music, Movies, Theatre, The Outdoors, Restaurants, Reading, Keep Fit, Sports (Playing) and Sports (Watching)
Stella, 50 from Nottingham, Nottinghamshire Looking For Dating Over 50s
Stella’s Characteristics
Eye Colour: Brown
Hair Colour: Dark Brown
Hair Length: Short
Height: 5’1″-5’4″
Build: Average / Medium
Ethnicity: Caucasian / White
Religion: None
Marital Status: Divorced
Smoker: None
Drinker: None
Children: 2
Vegetarian: No
Education: Secondary / High School
Occupation: Other
Income: £10,001 – £20,000
About Stella
I’m looking for a long term relationship \u0026 no mind games. Not interested in one night stands or friends with benefits, I want a man who isn’t scared to commit \u0026 show his feelings!
I have 2 adult daughters \u0026 3 granddaughters.
Stella’s Answers
What do you like to do for fun?
Read cinema theatre eat out.
What is your favourite meal?
Carvery
Stella’s Interests
Movies, Theatre, Restaurants, Reading and TV/Radio
Read MoreMaria, 42 from Bristol, Avon Looking For Dating Over 40s
Maria’s Characteristics
Eye Colour: Blue
Hair Colour: Light Blonde
Hair Length: Shoulder
Height: 5’1″-5’4″
Build: Average / Medium
Ethnicity: Caucasian / White
Religion: Christian
Smoker: None
Drinker: Social
Children: 3+
Vegetarian: No
Education: Degree
Occupation: Doctor / Medical
About Maria
5’2, blond blue eyes, I have curves
Maria’s Answers
What do you like to do for fun?
All the usual things..weekends away, driving, walking, reading, gardening..meeting up with friends and family
What is your favourite meal?
Difficult..So many to choose like most things apart from sushi..Sorry but my fish..apart from smoked salmon is cooked!! That’s just how it is
What is the most interesting fact about you?
Another difficult one..I’m honest, happy, caring..but also strong minded, pedantic, and dismissive…Well I am a woman after all!!
Maria’s Interests
Pop Music, Classical Music, Jazz Music, Country Music, Rock Music, Movies, Theatre, Animals, Gardening, The Outdoors, Restaurants, Pubs/Clubs, Cooking, Travelling and Sports (Watching)
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