How to fall back in love with your partner

How to fall back in love with your partner

If you have been with your partner for a long time, you may feel as though you are both settled into a boring routine, you do the same thing day in day out, and you seem to be drifting apart. It may feel as though you are together out of convenience or because you have been together so long you wouldn’t know where to start being single.

It is not a nice feeling to know that the person, who you were so madly in love with and couldn’t keep your hands off, is now just someone to watch TV with and eat dinner with. If you long for the old days when your romance was so hot and your love for each other was so deep, read on, we will give you some handy advice on how you can rekindle your romance and fall back in love with your partner. It will take effort from the both of you to make this work so it would be a good idea to read this together.

  1. Go on date nights

Set up a “date night”. Dating is fun and exciting for most people, and a lot of relationships lose that aspect of their relationship the longer they are together, restore it by organizing a designated date night. Make the same effort you would if you were going on a date with someone else for the first time, dress up, go out and do the things that you both enjoy doing together.

  1. Don’t get too relaxed

We often get too comfortable in our relationships. Leaving the door open when you go to the bathroom, being a general slob or not taking care of your own personal hygiene are all ways we tell our partner that we don’t care about ourselves. If you show that you care about yourself, your partner will be more likely to feel the same way. Just because you have been together for a few years doesn’t mean that your partner doesn’t mind that you chew loudly while eating or that it’s ok to scratch and fart rudely.

  1. Space!!

Try taking a short break, sometimes we get so involved in life together that we forget that we also have lives apart from each other, it is goof to have some time to yourself or with friends away from your partner. Nobody wants to feel tied down and restrained.  In order to rekindle love, it’s often necessary to spend time apart. As the old saying goes absence makes the heart grow fonder so plan a day away with friends or a movie night out where you can have fun away from work and from each other, then come back and tell each other about the fun things you got up to.

  1. You reap what you sow

Remember that the more you put into the relationship the more you are going to get back out of it. It’s a two way street and requires a little give and take. If you like going to funny movies but she prefers horror, then once and a while let her pick the movie. Or if his idea of a good time is to go bowling and then to the pub, arrange a bowling and pub night. It won’t go unnoticed and it will be much appreciated.

  1. Pick your battles

In any relationship there will be disagreement and conflict. The key here is to decide which issues are worth pursuing and which are better off ignored. By doing this, you’ll find much less negative energy between you. Anytime you feel annoyed or irritated, take a minute to examine the issue at hand, and ask yourself a few questions. “How important is this?” “Is this worth picking a fight over?” “What would be the benefit of choosing this battle versus letting it go?” if your partner has a really bad habit of squeezing the toothpaste from the middle of the tube and this disgusts you, it may have to be something that you get over, nagging and nagging about something which in the grand scheme of this is quite minor will only push you further apart. Know what is worth arguing over.

Relationships naturally flow with ups and downs which can be frustrating at times; especially if you are not able to feel the way you want to feel. But unless something has happened to change the way either of you feel about each other, you will be able to rekindle love in your relationship if you take the time to work at it

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